Today I was unable to attend the #womenmarch2018 but I stand beside all the women who came before me. The women who died trying to get an abortion, the women who were sterilized without their consent or knowledge. The victims who were raped, those who were unable to talk about it, unable to report it. The victims of #intimatepartnerviolence whose love is their greatest strength and their greatest weakness. The queers, the trans community and the gender non-conformist who struggle to be themselves. I stand with every person of color who has been pushed aside or silenced throughout history and in today's movements. I stand with the rebels, the snowflakes, the victims, and the loud mouth bitches. Those of you who don't think your voice matters, the ones I may have failed to mention in this post I hear you. I stand with those whose labor goes unrecognized. There are those that may call us a cancer to society and maybe that's true, because we will be grow and destroy. We will be the death of a patriarchal society and any society that tries to holds us back and replace it with something beautiful. #feminism#resist#notgoinganywhere#forwardalways#notgoingback
As part of my healing process, & supported by my hand therapist Edel, once a year I gave talks about my surgical and hand therapy experiences to her final year specialist hand-therapy physiotherapy students at Middlemore Hospital and AUT. It was good for them to hear directly from a patient with such complicated injuries and rehab, and it was good for me to get my confidence up, get out into the world, and not be afraid of crowds. In 2014 I had the opportunity to talk on the steps of parliament as a domestic violence survivor spokesperson for the New Zealand Women’s Refuge after we marched to Change New Zealand Shame. I fucked up here and there, but for the most part it went well. My knees were shaking but I felt empowered. Then, a friend asked me to give an inspirational talk about overcoming adversity at her 40th. Suddenly women’s groups and family violence prevention trusts started asking me if I’d stand up and share my story for survivors of DV, or for workers in health and social services on the front lines of dealing with family violence. I had people coming up to me thanking me and telling me I had given them a whole new understanding of intimate partner and family violence, and that listening to me had changed the way they would do their job forever. That it was the best talk they’d ever been to in their whole career. People telling me I’d given them hope for a better future, and that I had made a positive difference in their lives just from standing up and talking. Women in tears telling me that they thought they were all alone and no one understood until I shared my story. This is why I’ll never stay silent again. I came to realise not only am I good at it, speaking my truth and spreading awareness for a better world is part of my calling and that this work is important, and is exactly what we need right now in the world. Throw in a few successful library talks about my book, and viola….I’m a public speaker ready to go hard. I am happy to
#stalkingawarenessmonth Stalking happens to all genders, all races and occurs across socioeconomic classes and, when paired with #intimatepartnerviolence can be deadly. 76% of women killed by a current or former intimate partner were stalked.