"I had a terrible feeling of dread and regret, like I’d made a terrible mistake deciding to have a baby because there was no way I would ever be a good mother." My last in a series about #mentalhealth is up on @Healthline today! I am so grateful to Sepideh @runwalktalk for sharing her brave story. 💚 As always, thank you for reading. (Link is in my profile!)
Want to know how depression makes me feel? ▫️ Like you’ve just arrived back home from what should have been a really great holiday. But it wasn’t at all what you expected. Then the flight back had terrible turbulence and your luggage got lost. Which is devastatingly aggravating because inside the suitcase was your most treasured possession. You get home and you don’t know if you are hungry / tired / disorientated and you’ve no idea what the hell the time is. To add to this, the house has a powercut, nothing to eat and the bed needs making. There’s a huge pile of post with URGENT letters building up. Home doesn’t smell like home and its empty and eerily quiet. No room is welcoming. You feel like a stranger. ▫️ All your friends are at a festival, having the time of their lives. You didn’t get a ticket, but you don’t know if it was because you couldn’t afford it, didn’t have the right clothes, didn’t think it was your thing or felt as though you weren’t really invited. ▫️ Standing alone in this dark, vacant house, wanting to switch yourself off, then your mobile phone rings and it’s a relative who has been trying to get hold of you since you landed but you’ve been ignoring it. You have to take their call this time. “Hello, how are you? How was your holiday? You must have had the most amazing time! The photos look perfect. Bet it’s nice to be at home now?”. ▫️ You knew these would be the questions, and you don’t know how to answer them and you don’t want to sound ungrateful because they helped you go on the holiday. So you just pretend it was “perfect”. When it really wasn’t and you just want to cry and disappear and pretend none of this is happening. ▫️ #feelgoodflora#oktosay#thisisme#writingsondepression#removethestigma#wellness#wellbeing#wellnessrevolution#healthymindbodysoul#mindfulness#mentalhealth#oktosay#metime#healthandwellness#livethelifeyoulove#wellnessjourney#lifestyleblogger
95% of employees calling in sick with stress gave a different reason. These stats from @timetochangecampaign show how important it is to reduce the stigma on mental health in the workplace. Earlier this year, The Duke of Cambridge met with business leaders, thanking those that are changing the conversation on mental health and encouraged others to do the same by signing the Time to Change pledge. #headstogether#mentalhealth#work#oktosay
Good morning! #bellletstalk#letsbreakthestigma#oktosay 💃❤ #repost @bell_letstalk (@get_repost) ・・・ “Hello my name is Rikki. My name is not depression. My name is not anxiety. My mental illness does not define me, but it has definitely helped shape me into who I am today” – powerful words spoken by @rchisvin, one of our incredibly brave #bellletstalk community members.
The more we are trying to control and manipulate another human being, the less we are being true to, and honest with ourselves. The more we are demanding that others meet our needs, the less we are loving and caring for ourselves. When we truly love another person, we do not try to cage them, and keep them to ourselves. We do not try to separate them from friends or family. We do not attempt to monopolize their time, or cajole them into being with us alone, and we most assuridly are not abusive. When we know we are loveable, we have no need to try to force others to love us. We have no need to be in control or to hold them accountable for every move and action. We are not filled with rageful jealousy if they comment that another person is attractive. We trust that they will love us, because we first love ourselves. We trust they will love us because we know we deserve to be loved, and if they do not love us, we don't beg, demand or manipulate, we let them go. For if they don't love us, someone else will. In order to have any healthy stable and enduring relationship, we must first know that we are loveable, and that we deserve to be loved. When we truly love ourselves first, then knowing we deserve to be loved is easy. When we know we deserve to be loved, our relationships run smoothly and are comfortable to be in. All relationships require work to maintain, and all involve conflict, but when we love the other, and trust that they love us, conflict is something we move through. Then, we return to the stability that mutual love provides. If conflict is the foundation of the relationship, real love is missing from the equation, and it may be time to evaluate whether we need to continue the relationship. Those who know they are loveable also know when to let go. #quoteoftheday#relationships#recovery#mentalhealth#love#oktosay#blogpost#karlyletomms
Sometimes you have to make decisions, even though you're feeling fine now, about how someone or something might affect your anxiety in the future. It's not the most fun option but it's something I've learned over the last 14 years. If the red flag goes up, I gotta pull back. #anxiety#anxietyrecovery#oktosay#selfcare#anxietystories
It arrived!!! I am now officially and official LiRF Leader! I'm so excited. It's felt like it's taken the longest time to come through but now I can start up my running club and help people get into running. The way running has helped me with my mental health is huge and if I can help just one person I will be over the moon! So here's hoping that I can find a great group of people will to let me figure out what I'm doing and we can go and have a laugh, get outside, feel great! #excitingtimes#lirf#couchto5k